Friday, December 16, 2011

Because i need 3 more....Here are 30!

i am going to steal a post from another blog. I put this up on Facebook today and many folks from my work started sharing it. It's called:

My disclaimer: i normally HATE affirmations or rules about how to be a better person. I do not like reading self-help books. But these are pretty straight-forward rules that everybody, i mean everybody, can use. 

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

But first. Menu of the Day.....

In my glass: Molly Dooker Two Left Feet. It's amazing. It cost over $25, but it's worth it.

On the stove: jojo's spaghetti sauce.

The Best thing: i am off work for 16 days in a row for the holiday!

What i wish: That i could sleep better without waking up at 2 or 3 am.

What i feel guilty about: That i should be wishing for ending World Hunger instead of sleeping through the night.

Music playing : Dustin Kensrue "Don't you wait for me" i think that's the title. I love this guy.

OK. here is the post that i wish i had come up with. I took out all of the explanations because blogspot won't allow so much text and i don't think they need explaining anyway.

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.” Nothing could be closer to the truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

1. Stop spending time with the wrong people.
2. Stop running from your problems.
3. Stop lying to yourself.
4. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner.
5. Stop trying to be someone you’re not
6. Stop trying to hold onto the past.
7. Stop being scared to make a mistake.
8. Stop berating yourself for old mistakes
9. Stop trying to buy happiness.
10. Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness.
11. Stop being idle.
12. Stop thinking you’re not ready.
13. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons.
14. Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn’t work.
15. Stop trying to compete against everyone else.
16. Stop being jealous of others.
17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself.
18. Stop holding grudges.
19. Stop letting others bring you down to their level.
20. Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others.
21. Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break.
22. Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments.
23. Stop trying to make things perfect.
24. Stop following the path of least resistance.
25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t.
26. Stop blaming others for your troubles.
27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone.
28. Stop worrying so much.
29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen.
30. Stop being ungrateful.


jojo cucina cucina said...

If you want all of the explanations go on my Facebook wall and they are in the link. If you are not on Facebook, let me know and i'll post them here. But i really think they say it all just by their subject.

If you are willing to admit to this....let us know what you struggle with. Mine are....


Swiss said...

I think I saw that somewhere else but I have a virus and can't hear in one ear and I think it is affecitng my brain too. 52 YAY!

Swiss said...

Oh I will do it.....some of those I have had and have worked them out and that felt good...the ones I still need work are

6. 8. 16. 28 and 29.

louielouie said...

Tough ones for me:

17. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself.

This isn’t exactly my problem, I am complainer (and need to stop) but don’t think I feel sorry for myself. I know basically I have it pretty darn good. Mostly I complain first and then go about the work and get it done.

25. Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn’t.

It’s funny that I think this is hard too; it seems as if it is the opposite of complaining but it’s not. Sometimes I think it’s good to act as if everything is fine, things might actually become fine.

27. Stop trying to be everything to everyone.

Maybe the middle child thing, but I do want everybody to be happy but still agree with all my decisions and each other.

29. Stop focusing on what you don’t want to happen.

Well, I do think focusing on what you don’t want to happen can help you prevent those things from happening, but I know it can sometimes overtake everything.

31. Stop letting petty people and petty annoyances make you a petty person.

I’m afraid I am a petty person, unable to let go of injustices (real or imagined) so I have a hard time moving on. Somehow this is different to me than holding a grudge.

jojo cucina cucina said...

louie, i wanted to pick #17 too but i also know that like you, i don't feel sorry for myself. And you don't either. But complaining is kind of fun sometimes.

I think because you are a middle child you tend to play the peacemaker and you do act like things are fine when they aren't. For me something things ARE fine and i act like they AREN'T... HAHAHA....It's a Louvrak family thing.

I have no problem saying no without feeling guilty so i don't try to be everything. ESPECIALLY if people think i should be more that way.

Yeah, i have a problem with 31 too. I blame it on the union work. There is SO much pettiness and whining in the union office from folks who want our help that it can get contagious. I don't think it necessarily makes me a petty person, but it does make me a murderous one.

And i guess i should own up to have a problem with #26. I blame the union for all the flaws in my personality.

Swiss .... good to see you!.... this might help to think about when you work on your #16....the people you may very likely be jealous of probably have a problem with #5, #9 and #15. HAHA~!

jojo cucina cucina said...

I am confined to the back bedrooms while my husband wraps Christmas presents in the living room, playing some old fashion Christmas music and drinking a glass of chardonnay. I need to get ready for my brother's Christmas party.

I don't really like going to Christmas parties very much anymore because i get tired before midnight and feel like an old person. But at least my brother only lives 5 minutes away. And i know everyone there. The worst ones are office parties i think. All that pretending.

Do the rest of you like going to Christmas parties?